Being or having a person with whom you can be vulnerable to address your difficulties or seek help is critical to your cognitive health in a world full of false impressions of people and stigma. We all have times when we want to be alone as people, and we all need that person with whom we can feel comfortable.
One of our goals at Youmetalks is to provide a friendly chat where you can make new friends and have constructive conversations. And for this it’s important to create a safe environment where people can flourish. In a safe environment, you don’t need to seek forgiveness to be who you’re, to express your feelings, or to be completely honest. In such an environment, you can unfold more freely.
Here are 7 guidelines to get you started when you want to create a safe space for someone:
1. Don’t try to solve their problems
Have you ever noticed that when someone is grieving, we want to make things better for him or her? This may make us feel good, but it doesn’t make the other person feel better, because it may make them feel even more alone in their grief.
Instead of trying to change them or their feelings, we should just be there for them. Sometimes people just need to go through their grief instead of being corrected.
You can give your friend valuable and compassionate space by cultivating these core qualities. Since we rarely give each other space, your attempt can absolve you from unintentional mistakes you make.
2. Remind yourself to breathe and listen inside yourself
This is a useful technique that guarantees your grounding. It also allows you to maintain a connection with your body. This is the most effective way to check your communication with the other person and with yourself.
3. Define and respect boundaries
Setting and respecting boundaries can improve protection in a communication by setting personal limits. When you talk about the boundaries of your communication, you let your friend know your preferences and encourage them to talk about their own. Recognize that setting boundaries not only protects you, but also your communication.
There can be sexual, biological, emotional, and financial boundaries. They’re all important to having a fulfilling communication. If you and your interlocutor know your boundaries, be sure to respect them.
4. Don’t seize the pain
Have you ever noticed that providing a safe environment for someone who is suffering greatly can exacerbate your own anxiety? It’s important to realize that if you want to provide a safe environment for someone, you need to work toward a specific goal. Even though you’re in the same situation as them, you’re simply holding their hand instead of stealing their crisis and making it your own.
5. Encourage accountability
In this way, you can show your friend that you take responsibility and show appreciation for their communication. And if you show that you’re committed to a worthwhile cause, you build trust. But it doesn’t have to happen in a single day.
Showing your friend that you’re constantly trying, no matter how small it seems, shows that you’re committed to the friendship. As long as your friend is still in the game, you can hold yourself accountable.
6. Listen actively
To feel secure, people need to be heard and understood. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Isabelle Morley, effective listening means “putting aside your defenses and distractions and really taking in what your partner is saying to you”.
7. Allow your friend to be believed
This includes not making snap judgments and being curious to learn the basis for their view. When you stop judging people and making up explanations for their behavior, you can understand them better and be more sympathetic to them. Even if you don’t always agree with their opinions, you can at least create a calm environment.
Conclusion
A successful and happy communication starts with creating a safe environment for others. There are several ways to create a place where people can feel protected.
But you might think about trying a few of the methods above to see which works best for you and your friend. We have a community of great people where you can meet incredible individuals and build lasting connections.
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